I recently heard something that made me consider how damaging positive thinking can be. Due, in part, as a result of self-development planet, so many people believe that they need to have positive thoughts all of the time.
And, if they don’t, something bad will happen; with negative thoughts being viewed as the reason why bad things have happened in their lifetime. It’s then not going to be much of a surprise for someone like this to become obsessed with what’s occurring in their head.
Rather than being able to be in the moment, they will be caught up with whether or not they’re having the perfect thoughts. This can’t just create lots of stress, it can also cause them to feel guilty every time they slip up.
Through the need to be positive all the time, one can end up experiencing more negativity than they have before. I have written a number of articles over the years that enter the’negative’ side of positive thinking.
The Main Point
But, although what I heard did make me think of how negative positive thinking can be, that was not the major thing that crossed my mind. What crossed my mind was how positive thinking was one of the things which can stop someone from falling right down.
This can sound like as good thing though, as falling right down and hitting rock bottom can appear to be something which has to be avoided in any way coasts.
One way to comprehend how falling down could be positive is to think about how trees often need to be cut back in order to grow in the ideal way. If certain braches were permitted to grow and weren’t dealt with, it would stop a tree from being able to grow large and strong.
The cause of this is that the nutrients would end up being sent to so many unique braches rather than the main trunk. In precisely the same way, if someone isn’t knocked down to the ground and they try to continue as they are, it too can stop them from being able to reach their potential.
When it comes to a human being, it won’t be that the nutrients are being directed to the wrong body parts; it’ll be that energy has been directed to parts of their life as well as an identity that no longer serve them. Yet, thanks to their need to stay positive and/or taking things which will stop them from falling down emotionally, it will keep the inauthentic life that they are living alive.
In precisely the exact same way that scaffolding will stop a rotten building from falling down, trying to stay positive, running from a empty relationship to another, drinking, taking drugs, having casual sex or a host of other things will prevent them from crashing down. However, although their thoughts will do whatever it can to stop this from happening; this could be just what they need to transform their life to go from a mean existence, to a excellent existence and to fully embrace who they are.
When somebody completely falls down it can feel as though they are going through hell, and they might wonder if they will ever rise up again. This is likely to show they are in plenty of emotional pain, pain that has probably been locked within them because their early years.
The fantastic thing is that when they’re down and are no longer resisting how they’re feeling, it is going to give them the opportunity to gradually develop a life and an identity that reflect who they are. But, before this takes place, they will most likely have a good deal of baggage to manage.
quite a few Years Ago
This is something which I went through in the beginning of 2013, once I have attempted to keep it all together for so long. My mum had a stroke in 2010 and my father passed away in 2011, and both these things gave me a big knock but I did everything I could to keep my emotions at bay, allowing me to keep myself together.
It was when a relationship came to an end in the beginning of 2013 that I ended up falling apart.
The work I had done up until that point had simply decorated the false-self that I had formed; it hadn’t allowed me to get in touch with my true essence. Still, I was ready to go deeper at that point and what I had learnt prepared me for what I had to undergo.
There were moments when I wondered if I’d ever be able to operate again, let alone grow up. The false-self that was in place since I was a child had cracked open and I was no longer willing to play the same roles.
Patience and Persistence
I believed that there had to be a way for me to get myself out of this hole that I was in.
There were ups and there were downs but I kept going, and this meant that I slowly came across the information and support that I wanted. This time in my life did provide me with a great deal of insights, but it does not mean that I would wish to go through it all again.
I would like to be clear, however, that this doesn’t mean that I am now living the perfect life. But what it does mean is I have come a long way and I know what it feels like to experience inner peace.
So, when you have hit rock bottom, take a moment to consider that you’ve got what it takes to rise up. The main thing is that you do what you can to surrender to what is going on and to reach out for support if you need it.